I have found it very interesting reading of this topic. As it is Jan. / 04 I pray that by now this "problem" has been solved for you Isaac and you have a SF. When I chose my SF it was a priest that is conservative in his thinking. I am a member of an Antiochian Orthodox Church so I also wanted wanted a SF rooted in that, not a convert and with a middle eastern heritage. This was important to me as I am a convert and am new to this Orthodox faith so I had to feel assurred there would be no "short cuts" given to me. I chose my SF as a life long commitment. He can never be my friend nor do I think can my Priest. Yes both must be friendly to me and the chemistry must be right but never my friend. It must remain SF and Priest.
May God bless you richly in this New Year.